I haven’t masturbated to porn in a veeeery long while and I most likely never will again.

I decided “I don’t want to be a guy who jacks off to pixels” one day and went from there.

Relapses happened, but they got less satisfying every time. I have no urge to watch porn now.

Notice the underlying principle of why I quit porn?

I made it about my identity.

No self-respecting man wants to be a cuckold in any way. He wants to FUCK.

How porn affects your psyche

Every time you sit in front of your computer jerking off to a video, you alter your brain’s structure. Its path to sexual pleasure and dopamine release becomes passive cuckoldry, not actually going out and meeting flesh-and-blood women like a man should.

You’re literally pleasuring yourself while not even touching or interacting with a woman! You’re just looking at her, whether there’s a guy fucking her or not!

This is DETRIMENTAL to your relationships with flesh-and-blood women.

Not only will you lack sexual energy around new women, having wasted it all on fantasy, so they won’t be viscerally drawn to you…

But if you actually do get in the bedroom with one, you will not fuck her like a woman deserves to be fucked because again, your sexual energy is depleted, and because your brain doesn’t expect sexual pleasure to come from sex.

Like your sexual energy, the physical sensations you get from sex will be dulled, making the sex less exciting than it could be for you and your partner.

You may even have to watch porn or think about porn during it just to stay hard, because your brain is wired to become sexually aroused when WATCHING sex, not when LIVING sex.

If you watch porn, you may not think of yourself as a cuckold, but in terms of brain chemistry, you are one.

All porn is cuck porn.

If you’re getting sexual pleasure from touching yourself to women who don’t know you, who almost certainly will never know you, who wouldn’t care if you got hit by a bus and died, then that’s a problem.

You’re training your brain to get off on fantasy, not the actual act of sex. You’re training your brain to get sexually excited when ANOTHER GUY takes the girl you want and fucks her, not when you do it.

Porn steals your energy and your testosterone, gents. It forces you to live your sexuality vicariously, not with real ladies.

Since I quit porn…

My sexual energy has been through the roof. I handle the tension well and keep it in my body instead of spilling it out all the time. I literally feel like my sexuality has flowed out of my brain and now courses through my veins. I literally feel the harnessed sexual energy shaping me into a more masculine man.

My sexual fantasies and desires also aren’t so in-depth. This is a good thing. Instead of having a whole bunch of sexual scenarios and sexual acts I wish could come true someday polluting my energy, all I want to do is fuck pretty girls like a man, and not the girls I see in photos or videos. The girls I see in person.

And when I do get to know one of those girls, I’m unapologetic and direct about moving things forward. No sexual shame here. I know they smell the energy on me and love it.

It’s like I’m a testosterone-packed 13-year-old all over again. (I nofapped in the early years of my puberty because I was a good christian boy)

Because my identity and my level of existence are dissociated from porn and masturbation, I have much more sexual energy to give to girls and to put into my own self-betterment.

And I have much more motivation to go out and meet girls, even during this pandemic of fear.

I’ve been going to my local hiking trail every evening for the last little while, after I finish working on my business, training, and eating. The fact that pretty girls go there, and that I can say hi to them and see what happens, is only one reason I go.

I go there and walk for 2+ hours a day because of all the damn energy I have. Even if I’m productive all day, I still have to be in motion after my work period ends. I can’t be idle. This is masculine sexual energy at work, probably also my type A personality.

Back when I’d watch porn, I wouldn’t do this type of thing. I’d go places to the extent that my responsibilities and social/dating life would require, and chill at home the rest of the time.

It wasn’t just my psyche that had its energy drained by porn, it was my lifestyle. With porn sapping my sexual energy, I didn’t have the drive to go out and conquer the world like a man should.

Seriously, gents. Quit porn. Stop masturbating all the time.

Without those things keeping you comfortable and satiated, a masculine hunger will develop in you. You won’t settle for living your life through a screen of pixels. You’ll want to go out and conquer the world not just because you rationally know it’s what a man should do, but because it’s the purpose of your very being.

And when you meet some ladies during your conquests, you’ll want your game and your mindset around them to be on point. Having raw sexual energy is a must, but it’s not the entire picture.

Work with me, and you know what’ll happen next. Your dating life will get a lot better, to say the least.

Anyhoo, I’m off to go do some pushups, get a nutritious meal in me, and go to that hiking trail to maybe meet a cute girl or two or three, then take care of a couple more responsibilities before going to bed.

What about you? What are you putting your energy into?

– Ben

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