Porn kills your ability to adore women

Alright people, we’re back with another newsletter about why porn sucks. Let’s get to it.

Porn conditions you to objectify and worship women.

If your sexual release comes from just LOOKING AT women while touching yourself, it wires your brain to make you feel like you don’t deserve the actual act of sex, like you only deserve to masturbate in the presence of an attractive girl.

So when you meet an attractive girl face-to-face, that mental programming kicks in. Your instinct is to worship her with the act of masturbating to her, not to ravish her with your masculine sexuality.

Unconsciously, she picks up on this and her hindbrain sees you as a low-status male. Even if you position yourself in the right ways, she still won’t be chemically attracted to you.

Guys who watch porn have an energetic impotence to them that porn-free guys lack. Porn-free guys naturally have higher levels of masculine energy, and higher control over it. This isn’t just because of retained semen, but because of the psychological/spiritual changes that porn brings.

The pheromonal and energetic changes masturbation causes in your body also play a part in your sexual depolarization, which girls strongly pick up on.

Adoring a woman is not worshiping her

As a man, you absolutely SHOULD adore women, and they should adore you.

You shouldn’t worship them, which is what porn and masturbation condition you to do: you sit idly, alone in your room, while you watch those girls having sex and living their lives, then you spill out your sexual energy to the fantasy of them.

Pathetic. That’s spiritual cuckoldry.

Adore women through masculine strength and potency, not through worship.

Adore women as they’re meant to be adored by a man – through embracing their feminine essence with your masculine essence – protecting them from harm, keeping them secure, admiring their beauty, leading them through your world, and fucking them good.

But porn-watchers lowkey get conditioned into resenting women for what they can’t be – pure sex toys for them.

To porn-watchers, women are fulfillment to their sexual fantasies. They’re sex dispensers who never (or rarely) choose them for sex in real life.

Masturbating to them is a worship ritual. These guys are alone in their rooms, and release their sexual energy wishing the girls in the photos and videos could be there with them.

Then when they meet a girl in person, the drive to worship her is still there. Sexual release is still their god.

They can’t develop a proper sexually polar relationship with her.

They’ve expended all their sexual energy on fantasies, and now they have little left over to give to a flesh-and-blood girl.

Even if she’s attracted to the guy, his unconsciously driven behavior patterns (and pheromonal/biochemical changes brought on by compulsive masturbation) will turn her off and prevent any sexual tension from manifesting.

Quit porn, and watch women get much more beautiful

You’ll appreciate little things about them that you may not have put value in before – eyes, collarbones, their laughs and giggles, the glow in their skin, and most importantly: their vibe and overall energy.

You won’t just want to fuck them. You’ll want to enjoy them, with fucking as a nice little bonus if you meet one you REALLY click with.

You won’t be thinking “decent ass, now when we gonna fuck? ARE we gonna fuck?” as if that’s all she’s good for.

You’ll enjoy a woman for her holistic self. EVERY STAGE of interacting with her will be rewarding as the sexual tension builds (or not). The first “hello” won’t be forced and nerve-wracking. It’ll be natural and exciting.

Interactions with women will be void of anxiety. You’ll be consciously and unconsciously vetting them to see if they’re energetically, spiritually a good fit for you.

You won’t be asking yourself “how do I get her in bed?” when your sexual energy is cultivated, retained, and flowing through you. Sex is one of the most natural things in the world. When you meet a woman who’s sexually compatible with you, she’ll be looking for excuses to break through society’s anti-slut barrier and sleep with you.

When you’re depleted of masculine sexual energy due to frequent masturbation, you miss out on a whole world of sex and sexuality. It happens all around you, but you aren’t a part of it because you don’t vibrate on its level.

When you feel the sexual tension inside yourself, hold on to it. Don’t force it out of yourself. Let it flow through your entire body. Do this enough times, and that whole new world of sexuality will open up to you. You’ll feel sexual energy on a plane you couldn’t see before. And suddenly, everything about real sexuality will make sense. You won’t be shut out of that level of existence anymore. You’ll have the proper, natural energy to be part of it.

Sexual energy is what makes a woman want to sleep with you, not any logical procedure. The logical procedures are just vehicles for your sexual energy, conduits between you and her through which it flows.

(Though what specific game you use with women still matters)

At the same time, a woman’s energy is what will make you want to sleep with her, beyond her looks.

Funnily enough, if you quit porn and masturbation, you may find yourself absolutely unmoved by girls who you’d sleep with in a heartbeat if you were still watching porn and jerking off all the time, even if those girls are objectively hot.

That’s because spiritually and energetically, those girls aren’t right for you.

Your body has automatic mechanisms to detect girls who are good biochemical, psychological, and energetic/spiritual matches for you.

Frequent masturbation, especially to porn, shuts these mechanisms down because your need for sexual release and sexual fantasy overrides your body’s intuition. This is why some guys sleep with girls they aren’t very attracted to (“slump busting” is one way to put it). They NEED the release and a warm body, even at the cost of their standards and dignity.

It’s also why some guys fuck things up with girls they share mutual attraction with. They don’t properly handle the sexual tension and look for a release instead of letting it move themselves towards the girl. Or they barely feel any tension in the first place because they’re depleted of sexual energy.

But when you don’t need the nut, your body will save your seed only for girls who deserve it.

You will unconsciously feel it when a girl is right for you. You’ll be pursuing her for better reasons than just having a female body to masturbate with.

You’ll pursue her because her feminine essence complements your masculine essence. because her beauty makes you want to conquer and adore her, and your majesty makes her want to be ravished and led by you.

And that, gents, is the true beauty of sexuality.

Work with me if you want to bring female sexual beauty and male sexual majesty into your corner of the world. Quitting porn and masturbation is a necessary step, but it’s far from the entire picture.

Cheerio,

– Ben

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