Our date was shit… Then she kissed me!

Back during my hardcore “game”-obsessed days, I was out on a first date with a girl from Tinder. Didn’t want to marry her or anything, just wanted to small talk with her a bit, then take her to my place and show her my watch collection and read the Bible with her and also have […]

How to fuck up your pick ups

Whether you live to cold approach or not, you can’t deny it’s a valuable skill for meeting women outside your social circle, outside the bar scene, and outside of dating apps. It’s fun and simple – you live your life, see a pretty girl who strikes your fancy, then you say hi to her and […]

The Player Identity

Like most guys in the dating advice industry, I had a hard time getting girls early in life. I grew up skinny, geeky, and sexually and socially anxious. The furthest I went with a girl as a teenager was platonic cuddling, and I didn’t have my first kiss with a girl until my first week […]

Why the silent guy gets the girl

In the last email, we talked about the power of embracing pausing and silence in the conversation, and how crucial it is for sexual tension… Now here’s a story from my life where I made that work for me: I was out at the bars not too long a while back, and I wound up […]

Pay attention to the tension!

I see this so so much with guys: They’re great at making a girl feel comfortable with them. They know how to vibe, how to make her laugh, exactly what questions will get her to open up, and the right level of depth for every stage of the interaction. Their conversations over text, on the […]

The essence of Mr. Nice Guy

Boys, I’ve been him. Mr. Nice Guy – the guy who’s just a little too accommodating of other people’s needs… At the expense of his own. He’s the guy who can only be friends with a girl, nothing more, as she tells him all about the guys she’s seeing (and reading the Bible with, alone […]

Quitting porn – why it’s a game-changer

Nothing kills your masculine energy and masculine mindset quite like porn does. Guys ask themselves “How can I get women?” but neglect a more important question: “Why do I want to get women?” A man who watches porn wants women for all the wrong reasons – validation, objectification, masturbation. Such is the programming it instills. […]

The woman inside you

Wassup boys and boys, we’re gonna get Jungian and esoteric here, so buckle up. This is an advanced masculine integration topic I’ve seen few other dudes talk about. The Anima. Your feminine side, according to Carl Jung. I know that a lot of gents reading this will think I’m BSing, that I’m gonna go new-age […]

Dating mastery lessons from the shawarma shop

I was feeling peckish today, so through pouring rain, I trekked down to my favourite shawarma shop for obvious reasons. Nothing special happened. I just went down there, got myself a wrap, and went back home to enjoy it. So why am I writing this newsletter about such a mundane thing? It’s the happiest I […]

Women are mirrors

We gents have all had our disappointing, frustrating, confusing experiences with the ladies. Perhaps that lady hurt you, played with you in unpleasant ways, acted way too anxious or avoidant with you, abused you, banged your best friend, stole that pineapple you were really looking forward to eating… Why’d you date her then? Why’d you […]