Anal sex with your girl – is it fun or a pain in the ass?

I hope this newsletter won’t be shitty.

But I’m gonna butt into your inbox today and talk with you about something controversial and perhaps mysterious – anal sex!

Should you and your girl do anal?

How does it feel compared to vaginal?

I won’t be cheeky about it…

Anal sex is more about psychological dominance than physical pleasure.

I understand its fantasy appeal, especially if porn’s programmed it into you. (quit watching that, unless you like to trick your unconscious into thinking you’re a cuckold!)

But you can’t just randomly shove yourself in your girl’s bootyhole and have a comfortable fuck. You gotta let her clean herself out first, get some lube in there, and even then, doing it unprotected could get you a UTI (as I learnt the hard way once). A girl’s bootyhole isn’t naturally meant for sex. It’s tight and warm like her vajayjay, but despite being close to it, the angle may make sex awkward in some positions, and there’s always the possibility you’ll have to do some troubleshooting mid-fuck.

So should you?

Anal is one of those “dark”, taboo sexual acts that some girls will be open to, and others never will be. In any case, there’s not much besides the novelty elevating it over vaginal sex.

So if that wisdom turns you off anal for good, okay.

But if you’re still curious about it and are down to try it out, here’s everything else you need to know:

The girls most open to anal are the ones who have “porn brain” themselves, and all sorts of idealizations about sex. They’re the ones who want to get sexual pleasure out of being physically humiliated by a guy. Again, psychological dominance.

Girls have fantasies about anal too, but for them, it’s all about degrading themselves to please the man they’re with. Maybe that’s something you’re down to put into reality, maybe not.

A girl who’s more connected to her body, who isn’t so sexually stuck in her head, will be much less likely to want it up the ass. Not saying she’ll absolutely never be down to try it, she just won’t be so initially open to it, and will need to trust you, and be close to you, much more than a girl who’s got “porn brain” will..

Whatever choice you make about anal sex, make sure you’re informed about the risks and safety/cleanliness stuff, and you’re open to however your girl wants (or doesn’t want) to do it.

Anyhoo, here’s the usual sales pitch:

See me in coaching when you’re ready to be your most masculine, most present, most aware self!

Among other things, we’ll work on detoxifying your own “porn brain”, should that be applicable!

Cheers,

– Ben


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