Do women REALLY like muscular men?

I got into lifting weights in high school for different reasons than some guys do. It wasn’t to get girls. I had low self-esteem and assumed no girl would ever want me even if I was jacked as hell. My self-confidence was that low. So I decided – fuck it, I’ll do it for myself. […]

The Three-Storey House of Sexuality

We talked a couple days ago about the foundational elements of male attractiveness to women: You have to be fit/good-looking (be genetically strong!), successful and socially valuable (be a good provider!), and have some game (be a good lover!) for a fighting chance in the dating world. But as past me from 5 years ago […]

You’re not special (and that’s okay!)

I have nothing but respect for men who get into self-improvement. It takes a courageous man to refuse to bend to his circumstances, and to do the work to transform his life into one he’s chosen, not keep it one he’s only settled for. But there’s one unhealthy mindset self-improvement guys often have that keeps […]

Is personality sexy to women?

Wassup gents, I saw a post on the Instagram today from a female dating coach I like, Blaine Anderson. She’s claiming that while yes, women are attracted to height and success and looks… The most attractive women, 9s and 10s, care more what it FEELS LIKE to be around a man. “This isn’t pithy or […]

Why women manipulate men

Women have a dark, destructive, manipulative side. Mainstream dating advice pretends it doesn’t exist. Redpill/manosphere/PUA dating advice assumes it’s all there is. Women are much more complicated than their sex, shadow, mind, or heart alone. If you can’t see women (and yourself) holistically, then you will be constantly blindsided in the dating world, as I […]

Pickup guys and spreadsheets

Interesting tweet from Pancake Mouse today: A SPREADSHEET logging all his approaches and their details. Some people thought this was insane and weird. But me, I get it, man. Guys who are very logically oriented find value in quantification. It works for them. I have this side to myself. I mean, I used to keep […]

Emotional vomit is a good thing

I had a productive day yesterday – pulled a shift working on business stuff, then an 8-hour shift moving and sorting stuff at the day job, then I worked on business stuff for another few hours, all on 4-5ish hours of sleep. I’m determined to win, boys. My wins are more important than my comfort. […]

What is the mysterious, majestic Casanova Club?

I’ve talked a ton about mentorship recently, and for good reason. You need to have men in your life further along on their journeys in fitness, finances, and sexual energy, or else you’ll never know what’s possible for you. The right mentors will encourage you to rise to their level. But you can’t and shouldn’t […]

The real reason your cold approach failed

I eavesdropped on a young guy doing a cold approach last night. Good on him. The girl was pretty, young, and thin. The guy, tall, young, and thin. She was politely answering his questions at first, then she went cold and he let her go. That’s about all I managed to see/hear. I don’t know […]

How I learned to be a man

I like being around guys who are into self-improvement. I have a lot of interests worth relating to them over – fitness, business, gitting gurls. It’s refreshing to talk to a guy who “speaks the same language” as me. It’s these growth mindset-embracing gentlemen who I work with in coaching, and have a fantastic time […]