“I can’t cum during sex”, “I last too long during sex” – Here’s why you can’t GET IT UP

Quick and sexy one today, gentlemen.

Buuut my dick being too quick when things get sexy isn’t something I’ve personally dealt with.

I’ve had the opposite problem – LASTING TOO LONG. Leading to the girl either cutting our hot and sweaty hookup, or me forcibly finishing myself off. Sometimes, I haven’t even been able to cum even after she left.

Not being able to cum during sex has been my big bedroom issue, not premature ejaculation as some guys deal with. More embarrassingly, I’ve had my fair share of times when I’ve gone at it with the girl half-hard, sometimes even losing my firmness while I was inside her.

If your sex is dealing with the same performance issue, here’s why:

Your sexual energy is trapped in your head. It’s not flowing properly.

This is partially due to porn fucking your body’s natural circuit of sexual energy, so if you watch porn, IT’S TIME TO STOP.

Work with me in coaching, and I won’t just be your “STOP WATCHING PORN” drill sergeant. We’ll address your triggers and traumas, and not just keep you away from porn, but remove your urges to watch it entirely, even if you’re crazy horny and bored by yourself.

But there’s another factor likely at play here:

You numb yourself in the face of sexual tension.

A lot of guys are scared of or ashamed of their own sexual energy, so when they feel it, they sweep it away or they release it by themselves.

This is TERRIBLE for your sex life.

You need to be able to handle sexual tension to escalate with a girl.

When you’re feeling it, SHE’S FEELING IT TOO. This is when she gets feminine, when she gets submissive, and when she opens herself to following your lead, should she be attracted to you too and willing to become yours.

So gents, next time you feel those sweet butterflies in your stomach, take a deep breath. Pause. Ground the sexual tension. Lean into it. Pierce it. Move things forward.

The big thing that separates confident sexual animals from guys who feel like their seduction attempts are forced and intellectual isn’t the techniques and positions they’ve memorized.

It’s their capacity to feel, handle, and direct sexual tension. Sexual energy.

If you’re a guy who isn’t grounded in his foundational sexual energy, this may seem foreign. Scary. Uncomfortable.

But it’s this exact energy, this exact capacity to embrace it that TRANSFORMED my confidence and sense of sexual polarity around the ladies. Once you lean into this, knowing what to do to turn a girl on stops being a rehearsed furmulaic performance, and starts being NATURAL, INSTINCTUAL, EASY.

Are you afraid of it?

“I’m too in my head” is one of the most common issues clients bring up with me, and it’s something I’ve dealt with a ton in my own pursuit of the pretty ladies, so I empathize. And I know exactly how to fix this stifling of sexual energy.

Now are you ready to get out of your head, and into a whole new world of sexuality and joy and masculinity?

And to make premature ejaculation + “I can’t get it up!” things of your past?

I’m your Sexual Energy Coach for a reason.

Yes, we’ll go over the tactical stuff in coaching – what to say to a girl, what to do with her to make her yours, not just your friend.

But what sets me apart from the other dating gurus is two things:

1. Deep psychological work that’ll transform your mental health and undo all the knots in you that are stopping you from being your most masculine, most present, most aware, most forward-moving self.

2. Sexual Energy work that’ll make attracting the best girls for you EFFORTLESS, not an uncertain uphill battle.

Ready to be my next client success story?

See me.

– Ben


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