Are you a mature adult yet?

When you’re young, you can’t wait to grow up and you know, finally be a mature, free adult instead of staying a kid without any real life experience forever. This process isn’t always linear, or even easy. Oftentimes, we idealize adulthood instead of living it. If you’ve lived a little, you know that not everyone […]

How to find your life’s purpose instead of just grinding all day

I was really damn horny one night back when I lived in Nashville, so I downed some drinks and went out to my personal Hell: Broadway. Hunting for a pretty 21-year-old tourist down to be my girl for the night. These girls weren’t biting. I didn’t even want to fish for them. I ran game […]

The soullessness of unwalkable cities

I lived in Nashville, Tennessee for the first 5 months of 2022, and getting drunk on my couch was the highlight of most of my weeks there. That’s how much I hated that place. I’d get blackout drunk by myself watching Netflix twice a week because nothing else in that city made my dopamine flow […]

Her femininity’s deep source

Being a feminine woman isn’t as simple as putting on a pretty sundress and abstaining from casual sex. Though some sad singles round these parts would rather avoid real vulnerability and be a caricature than do the deep external and internal work to become a wholly integrated individual. This idealization of a woman’s Madonna archetype […]

How to eliminate your social anxiety and fear

I went down to the creek for some sunbathing a couple days ago. I stood by the rushing stream in my rolled-up underwear, embracing that sweet sweet sunlight all over my body. Then the sun hid behind the trees, I put my shorts and shoes back on, and I went off to go find another […]

How to Find Love and Meet Your Soulmates

I’ve asked myself who I’m really meant to be with a lot. I’ve found myself in temporary, unfulfilling friendship after temporary, unfulfilling friendship, dating girl after girl who didn’t stick around, and feeling no vibe with all the rest… If there’s one big thing I’ve learnt about relationship compatibility (we’re talking about all types of […]

9 Limiting Mindsets I’ve Overcome

Yesterday, I talked about a big limiting mindset, of which I still have a bit left to overcome – the mindset that my internal state is caused by my external circumstances, when the reality isn’t so! Now let’s go through 9 more of them, because Cady from Mean Girls said it best: THE LIMIT DOES […]

Let’s re-think Cause And Effect

My entire adulthood so far has been about WORK. Staying on top of my schoolwork. Finding a job. Working that job. Putting 8-12-hour days into business projects that ended up becoming my Sexual Energy Coaching thing. Grinding on said Sexual Energy Coaching thing, writing emails for it almost every day. Transforming my clients’ dating lives. […]

Why every girl you like has a boyfriend

My boy, there are levels to our dating woes. Some “men” are dedicated to being losers and no “advice” will ever make them get their shit together. Some of us men haven’t gotten lucky at all, but we’re working on ourselves and we’re a few mindset shifts away from getting some wins with the ladies. […]

Healing your body’s trauma through sex

Imagine there’s a rug in your living room. And there’s a bunch of LEGO swept under it. You can’t see the LEGO. But the rug’s bumpy. Uneven. Not aligned with the floor. How would it feel to walk on it? “The rug’s fine. There’s nothing wrong with it,” you say. Really? Then why’s walking on it […]