Should you befriend women?

I got into a thought-provoking conversation with Pat Stedman and YoyloPUA on the bird app a short while back. It’s right here. The crux of it was Pat’s “planting trees” strategy – friendzoning women instead of jumping on getting with them. This gives you social proof as a cool, non-needy guy, and access to said […]

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Should you be a player?

Yesterday, we talked about guys who get laid but still have Beta mindsets. Now let’s talk some more about guys who get laid but still have Beta mindsets. I like them. They’re not all the way there in their masculine self-development, but they’re further along than most guys are. So I’m not gonna tell you […]

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What makes the Alpha?

Much of the men’s dating advice community is fixated on being as Alpha as possible. Makes sense? Alphas get laid. Betas get friendzoned and led on, right? The manosphere and its denizens idolize these “alpha” men for one big reason – these men get SEX. They turn women on, viscerally. They have a certain masculine […]

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The two ways to get your needs met

If you’re a “nice guy”, this email’s for you. The defining trait of such a guy is that he’s scared to stand up for himself, he deeply believes his needs don’t deserve to be met. So he buries his needs. He creates covert contracts around them, instead of directly addressing and expressing them. Whether it’s the […]

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Should you become more masculine?

There’s a ton of talk in the quote, unquote “manosphere” about MASCULINITY – how you need to lift weights, make money, be on a mission, lead women instead of treating them as your superiors… This talk has its place, and the guys there lap up all the “be a man” platitudes. It’s “saving” men who didn’t […]

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