You’re an ambitious guy.
You keep yourself in shape, grind on your goals, refine your mindsets…
And take action to get where you wanna be in life.
But despite all that…
Dating is hard!
“Why don’t girls like me?”
“Why do girls want to be my friend, but never my girlfriend?
“Why do they act all feminine and interested and submissive with those other guys but not with me?”
“What am I saying or doing wrong that’s making all these girls ghost me, lead me on, and lose interest in me after a hookup or after one or two dates?”
“Girls always talk about how the guys they want hurt them, invite them over at midnight, and act like assholes with them. But I’m honest and respectful with girls and they don’t want to be with me!”
“I’m never going to be successful in the dating world if I’m not a tall, muscular, bearded guy with nice hair and an interesting life!”
“Why can I get some girls, but never ones that really excite me?”
“I wish someone taught me how all this works so I don’t have to blindly figure it out for myself”
Those were all my thoughts at one point too.
So I empathize.
Being a sexually unsuccessful guy is frustrating, possibly humiliating.
Don’t real men have no problem attracting (and retaining) pretty women?
So if YOU are powerless with these pretty girls…
Does that mean you’re doomed to that fate forever?
That you’re innately broken, genetically flawed?
While men successful with women all have that innate SOMETHING that you never will?
That the only reason a high-quality girl will ever want you is as a backup option? To settle for you once she’s had her fun with the guys she REALLY wants?
And you should give up on ever being successful and powerful in the dating market?
We don’t do this defeatist mindset around here.
Every client I’ve had has ended up dating high-quality women after one month or one call of working with me.
It’s because I DON’T just offer the
“say this, do this, you’re doing this wrong, you’re doing this right”
tactical advice most dating coaches do.
I go deeper, more holistic, and much more integrated than that.
(without neglecting the shallow stuff)
- Foundational masculine energy work
- Feminine energy work
- Deep psychological work that’ll undo all the knots in you that are holding you back from showing up as your fullest self
- Quit-porn coaching that’ll detox your brain and body from this nasty addiction
- Text/online game advice
- Infield tactical work
- Much much more 😉
A long while ago, I’d be powerless with girls no matter what game I’d pull.
Even if I was in the best shape of my life, well-dressed, moving up in the world, working on my mental health as best I could, and a very fun time overall.
I was confused and frustrated. Guys who weren’t so put-together or fit or interesting or ambitious were doing waaay better with the ladies than I was.
With them, the girls would smile, laugh, giggle all girlishly, invest themselves in them. They’d jump at the chance to see those guys again and again and again…
But that wasn’t in the cards for me, right?
Was I innately broken and unattractive, doomed to fail with girls no matter how much I’d work on my body, presentation, ambitions, and social skills?
Did not having a dating life as a teenager curse me for good?
Did my lack of experience with girls mean they’d never see me as a sexual being?
Was I too short, too weird, too inherently repulsive to ever get the girls I really wanted?
Dating and sex felt random and hopeless.
Even if I could OCCASIONALLY get a girl (but not keep her), I’d still feel used. I wasn’t in control of my dating life.
Why the hell not?
I wasn’t aware.
No one had ever taught me how girls really worked.
Nor to view my masculinity in a holistic, integrated way.
Or that I even deserved the results I wanted.
I decided not to settle.
I was determined to prove to the world I was worthy of attractive girls.
So I got into the “redpill” community and learnt a lot there.
I also studied the PUA/seduction stuff, and applied it in the field.
(and some normie dating advice, but that didn’t work for me)
Trial, error, learning, failure, the occasional victory.
(lots of failure by the way, as I learnt the hard way about what the redpill/PUA/seduction, normie, and other dating advice communities were teaching me was LEGIT vs what wasn’t)
My most major take-away:
Attraction is multi-dimensional.
Some men think it’s all about looks, money, and status; they think women only like successful, hot, high-status men. Regardless of all else.
Some men think it’s all about game and tactics; women are attracted to men who are socially skilled, who know the right words to say, the right actions to take, and the right ways to frame themselves.
Some men think it’s all about gender roles and sexual polarity; you being masculine and her being feminine is all that counts.
Some men think it’s all about authenticity and genuine connections; being able to connect with a girl’s heart is what gets her.
They’re all correct. They all see part of the picture, but not the whole thing.
Unlike them, my coaching is holistic. We’ll work on optimizing ALL OF THE ABOVE in your dating life.
I’m a realist, not a dogmatist.
We’ll leave untouched no aspect of ANYTHING you can do to be your most attractive, most masculine self.
My coaching also ISN’T “one size fits all”. I’ll get to know YOU and your unique situation, and guide you to the prosperous dating life you deserve!
- Clueless and inexperienced
- Pretty decent but not sure how to get to the next step of sexual mastery
- In a committed relationship, and you know you must deepen the intimacy between you and your girl, or risk stagnating or losing her
Are you ready to be the next gentleman whose dating trial-and-erroring I shorten from years, even decades, to mere MONTHS before he lands the ladies he most enjoys?
Here’s what a few of my past clients have to say about me:
Ben and I talked a lot about embodying and channeling energies — bringing my sexuality, intellect, and emotion into proper balance. It felt pretty woo-woo at first, but through talking with Ben and unpacking my dating experiences, I came to feel that this framework really addressed failures in my sex life (and broader self-conception) directly and clearly.
I had no idea, however, how much would fall into alignment when these concepts really clicked and I started to embody my sexuality more intuitively in my interactions. It is no joke to say that this slight change — coming to consider myself more sexually and to direct that sexual energy in a warm and confident way in my interactions — *radically* shifted my sex life, as well as my self conception. A few weeks into this realization, and I’m now dating the two sexiest (and most interesting) girls I’ve ever dated, and both of whom are palpably excited by me. More importantly, my life feels charged with a positive, inviting sexuality I’ve never felt before. The frame shift Ben helped set in motion has been *huge*.
– Alex K.
Ben gets to the root of dating issues. Think on this for a second. We’re biologically wired to seek out “mates” based on how well they fit some physical and emotional criteria. If you’re having issues getting girls, you’re not meeting those standards. The “red pill” crowd will tell you about all the things you’re saying wrong, and there’s a place for that kind of work, but the bottom line is that you have deeper issues you need to address.
Let’s flip things around. A beautiful, fit, and feminine girl shows interest in you. Does she need to do anything special to get you into bed other than make her interest known? Neg you? Use some special frame? “Deep dive” into your interests and passions? Of course not. It’s her you’re attracted to, not some series of actions and words she’s using to woo you. The key to leveling up your dating life is leveling up yourself.
Here’s the “bad” news: what Ben offers isn’t exactly a handful of cheap tricks that will instantly change your dating life with no effort required on your part. If you’ve been listening, you’ve probably already realized that the answers you’re looking for aren’t at the surface and they aren’t subtle behavioral shifts. The difference between you and the masters isn’t the little things; it’s the big things. Ben gets that and he’ll help you examine your holistic self and figure out what actions you can take to become the person that gets the results that you’re looking for.
The beautiful thing about this is a) it works and b) its benefits extend past dating. Ben sees all of this for what it truly is and I highly recommend that if you’ve read his work and his words resonate with you that you give his services a try.
I’ve known Ben for a long time and he’s truly a master at his craft. When I came to him, I was wrapped up in my own head about the male-female dynamics of the relationship. I wasn’t able to see my girlfriend for what she really was: A beautiful woman with her own personality traits. I was simply stuck in the respective gender roles that we played. Because of this, my relationship was going downhill.
Ben helped me break past my limiting belief systems so that I could truly show up for my loving girlfriend. Not only did we go through more theoretical/abstract/esoteric avenues, but we also created tangible and applicable actions that I immediately put into place after our call together. Since then, my relationship with my girlfriend has never been better. Ben helped me tune into my sexual energy and tap into that of my girlfriends’ to create a deeper and more meaningful connection together.
– Myles W.
What’s in it for YOU?
Let’s be realistic.
You’re not a perfect guy, nor will you ever be. You’ll make a shitton of progress working with me (assuming you’re responsible and coachable), but you won’t have an overnight “dud to stud” transformation.
Here’s what I DON’T promise you:
- The same coaching experience I’ve given to every other client.
- The ability to attract absolutely any hot girl ever.
- “You’ll meet the love of your life in under 2 months!”
- A bunch of sleazy tactics that will supposedly flip a girl’s attraction switches and get her wanting to sleep with you. (and don’t actually work unless you’re another kind of guy)
- Talk, talk, talk, and no action.
- Becoming a perfect man or ever getting a perfect woman. There’s no such thing.
Here’s what I DO promise you:
- A coaching experience tailored to your personal wants, needs, and values in the dating world, whether you’re looking to get married ASAP, play the field indefinitely, or anything in between.
- The women YOU deserve. Making sure you settle for nothing less than the best women who are in alignment with you.
- A dating life on your terms where you (and the women you date) are truly confident and empowered.
- Deep inner psychological work where we undo all the knots in you that are stopping you from showing up as the fullest, most present, most masculine version of yourself AND tactical “do this when she does this, she really means X when she says Y” advice that’ll get you performing your best in the field. We’ll work on BOTH the deep stuff and the shallow stuff.
- Accountability on your part. Advice and inner work alone won’t transform your dating life. You have to take action. You have to be unafraid of making a mistake that’ll grow you. You have to be unafraid of sacrificing a bit of money and comfort for long-term prosperity and sexual energy mastery.
- A growth mindset that’ll stop your imperfections stopping you from success with women, who are all just as imperfect and human as you are!
Look at my client testimonials!